I’ll never forget the first time I saw them in real life and got to actually hold them. Elijah Asebe was not feeling well and was grieving hard- it was clear he had attached to someone. Jonah Tesfaye came to us happily, waving goodbye to his caretakers. We were young and this was our first adoption. Everything was new. In fact, parenting was still fairly new to us. All those months of the paperwork trail and painful wait were worth it- the boys were finally in our arms and our sons!
I’m writing to share a glimpse of what your life will be like as a Mama to twins. First, it will be busy¦of course. But, it will be so much more than that. The special bond that twins have is almost indescribable. Our boys would flip-flop personalities and skill abilities just as we had started to figure out who each of them were and what they could do. It definitely seemed like, at times, they could read each other’s minds and were plotting things to do together.
But it isn’t all cute baby twin stories. There is plenty of hard. There are times when not one is crying, but both. When not one makes a mess, but both.
When not one is sick, but both. When not one is hurt, but both. When not one needs a cuddle with Mama, but both.
But, you scoop them both in your arms, ignore your aching back and utter exhaustion, and squeeze a little tighter knowing these moments will be gone in the blink of an eye.
Before you know it, they are growing up. They are developing their own individuality, yet somehow, they are so much alike. You question yourself constantly. Are we allowing them to be and grow as individuals? Are we celebrating the special twin bond they have? Do we encourage them to do enough apart? Do they do enough together?
But with all the questions, and all the doubt, the joy and fulfillment those two beings will give you is immeasurable. Strap on for a wild ride Mama. Those two eternally connected souls are going to take you places you never dreamed of. Enjoy the ride.
Your fellow twin Mom,
Twins Sydney and Reagan, 20 months old, are available for adoption through Madison Adoption Associates. There are grants available to the family who steps forward to adopt them. Reagan is believed to be healthy, and Sydney is diagnosed with multiple, significant special needs. Please email Sarah@madisonadoption.org for more information, or complete the Prospective Adoptive Parent form for consideration as their forever family.